October 30, 2008
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During moments of our relationships, sometimes we can get easily distracted by other people and make the mistake of accidentally cheating on our girlfriends or boyfriends. When this happens, theres a pretty big chance that they do not want to ever see you again, thus they break up with you. No matter how much you try to apologize, the damage has been done and your relationship is over. But however bad you think the situation is, theres always a chance in getting them back. Here are some tips to show you how.
1) Give Them Some Space
If your ex broke up with you because you made the mistake of accidentally cheating on them, theres still hope in getting them back, but you need to take things super slow. The worst thing you can do is immediately go back and try to comfort them. They most likely still cant comprehend your actions and dont want to see you at the moment. Give them the proper time and space to recover before you start to contact them again.
2) Know That They Can Still Be Jealous or Hurt
Dont let the guilt of what you did swallow you up. It already happened and theres no going in the past and changing things. Just be willing to accept and understand that your ex could be still in a lot of pain due to jealousy or depression, and you will be there to do whatever you can to make sure theyre okay. But as of right now, you need to be able to take care of your own priorities first and not let anything else have a negative impact on your life.
3) Be Supportive
Be there if they need you. If they dont have a car, drive them to wherever they need to go. Dont just cut all ties with them or daily routines you guys had together just because they stopped talking to you. Show them that just because you guys arent on good terms with each other, it doesnt mean that you cant still offer your support to them.
4) Be Persistent
Keep on pursuing them! They may ignore you, but they still have feelings for you and want to test to see if you still have feelings for them also. Inside they are really just craving as much attention they can get from you, but cant show it because of their ego. So be persistent even if it seems like they are putting up a shield.
5) Tell Them You Love Them
When your ex finally gives you a chance to see them, tell them that you still love them. Its important that you put your ego aside in order to maximize the chances of getting your ex back. Apologize for your actions, tell them how you feel completely guilty and wrong for what you did along with understanding how they feel, and assure them that youll never make the same mistake again. Theyll most likely forgive you for this, and then you can ask them, Want to try this again? See what happens next.
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Hey, if you “seriously” want to learn how to get back with your ex, don’t stall… take action! Check out my website at http://www.expotions.com for tips, strategies, and articles on how to get back your ex.
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October 28, 2008
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Sometimes, things really do happen in threes. And my rule is that when something happens three times, I should have a serious look at whatever the issue is.
Yesterday, I had three people call me about their divorces. One is just beginning a divorce, another is in the middle, while the third is just finishing up. (And actually, a fourth person called because shes starting a new relationship, which is bringing up unresolved issues from a very long term relationship that ended a couple of years ago.)
They all had a few issues in common grief, trust, letting go of attachments, and renegotiation. Grief is basically an intense feeling of loss. When any relationship ends, its normal to feel loss (you did lose something), and if its a marriage or another primary, long term relationship, its normal to grieve.
Usually, though, we associate grief with death, especially of a loved one, which makes sense, because its a serious, permanent (at least in this lifetime) loss. But there is a big difference between grieving a death and grieving the end of a relationship. When a loved one dies, your family and friends surround you, and support you. Everyone understands death, right? That person who was just there, in a body, walking and talking and hugging you, isnt any more. And part of the ritual of death is that of family and friends speaking well of the deceased, remembering all of his or her good qualities, helpful actions, achievements, etc.
Its different with a divorce. First, there is an interpersonal reason for the divorce, as opposed to death, which is more of a personal issue to the deceased. You loved the person you married you thought this was the best person for you in the world, or you wouldnt have married him/her. So something changed. Perhaps its the other person. People do change, not always for the better (having affairs, or alcohol or other addictions, for example). Or perhaps its you — you may have changed. You may have grown and now be unwilling to put up with things youd put up with in the past. Or perhaps the rose-colored glasses of love fell from your eyes, and you now see clearly something you successfully ignored or excused for a long time. Or both. (Perhaps you are the one with the addiction issue, but if so, you probably arent calling me, so Ill leave that for others to discuss.)
That means there are huge issues of forgiveness around a divorce (which there often arent around a death). First, for your own well-being, you eventually have to forgive your ex for whatever he or she did or didnt do or say often over a long period of time. Im not saying its easy, but remembering that people are doing the best they can all the time helps. Now, it may not be a very good best, but it is the best they can do, given who they are at the time.
The more difficult task is to forgive yourself for whatever you did or didnt do or say and most especially for what you didnt see. Forgiving yourself for ignoring what is now patently obvious to you may be the hardest job of all, harder than moving forward each day, constructing a new life for yourself, (and your kids, if you have them). What makes it so difficult to forgive yourself is that you question your own judgment. How did I not see this (irresponsibility, addictive tendency, cruel streak, whatever)? If I didnt see this, then what else am I not seeing? How can I ever trust my judgment enough to get into a relationship again? Trusting yourself going forward is critically important. You were doing the best you could at the time, too, and you learned from the experience, so next time, youll see more, right?
Another task is to let go of emotional/energetic attachment to the other person. While most people think that this is some huge process that takes a lot of energy over a long period of time, much of it can actually be done in just a few minutes with a simple visualization or two. I did this with a client yesterday, and at the end, she said, Thats it? That was so easy! And I feel so much better. Stuff happens suffering is optional. (Its different for each person, or Id describe how.)
Divorce differs from death in another way, too. Your friends and family may, or may not, surround you and support you. Perhaps some of them disappear, either because they dont know what to do or say, or because they side with your ex, or because they believe divorce in wrong in principle. And those who do stick with you will often begin to express the reservations about your ex they had all along, but felt it was wrong to voice. Perhaps they only know you as part of a couple, so knowing you as a single person is a completely new relationship. In any case, the important thing here is to recognize that you are recreating, or renegotiating, all your relationships, not just the one with your ex. When you do this consciously, it goes more quickly and easily than if youre not aware of what youre doing.
About the Author
Hollis Polk is a life coach (http://www.888-4-hollis.com), who has helped people create lives they love for 15 yrs, using NLP & hypnotherapy, decision science, clairvoyance & common sense from 20+ yrs of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist, Harvard MBA, & Princeton BSE
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An entire way of life that revolved around your family home and that you had got so used to for many years, abruptly comes to an end. The family ceases to exist, the marital property is divided and the children are handed over to one parent for safe custody. The partners wash their hands off each other and from then on do not recognise any obligation toward each other.
After divorce, despite your negative feelings, deep down you still retain very good memories of your family and the time you spent together with your spouse. Despite all the bitterness resulting from separation, you still long for the good times when you had gone on vacations together, watched movies and went out for romantic dinners early in your marriage. You may love or hate your ex-spouse, but you just cannot seem to forget him or her. These mixed feelings confuse you. You do no know how to come to terms with them.
You are restless and ill at ease. Sometimes, negative feelings may become intense and you may slide into teeth-clenching fits of anger or bouts of depression. Other times, you may feel nostalgic about the many years you spent in taking care of your children and carefully choosing which family assets to buy with your income. Coping with the after-effects of divorce is a mammoth task in itself. But you can make your ordeal easier if you follow the following rules.
Dont Play the Blame Game
One of the biggest mistakes people make after their divorce is to enter into a blame game. These are of two types those who blame themselves for whatever has happened, and those who blame their partners. The former would result in a deep guilt-complex that may lead to chronic depression. The latter leads to a lot of accumulated anger and a desire for revenge that gnaws you from within.
Both feelings are caustic and will begin to corrode your personality. The biggest virtue you can cultivate during this time is acceptance. You should just admit to what has happened and accept that your family is no longer united. Such acceptance and resignation to Gods will gives an inner peace.
Divert Your Attention
The worst thing that you can do after your divorce is to keep reliving the bad memories again and again in your mind. This will never allow you to come out of your predicament and get your life back on rails. Regardless of how depressed and low you are feeling, you should force yourself to divert your attention.
There are many ways to do this. You can pack your bags and go exploring other countries. You can take up a new hobby such as gardening or acquire a pet such as a faithful dog. You can take deep interest in movies, especially comedies, to lighten up and learn to laugh once again.
Get Professional Help
Trying to come to terms with your mixed emotions after divorce is a painful process. It is much easier if you take someones support in this moment of need. Professional psychologists or counsellors can ease the whole thing by getting to the root cause of your inner turmoil. They are specially trained and qualified experts who have acquired great insights into human behaviour. Such counsellors can pull you out of your condition and get you back on tracks again.
Write a Diary
Learning to write a diary has an amazing cathartic effect. It is you conversing with your soul every night. After you have written your inner most feelings on paper, you feel as if a burden has lifted off your shoulders and you have got all the stress and negativity out of your system.
Take up Yoga and Meditation
Yoga is the great Indian secret to healing your body and mind. No one knows how Yoga works and how it affects our nervous system and brain, but it has an amazing calming affect. Meditation is an essential part of Yoga that teaches how to develop one-pointedness. Yoga and meditation together are wonderful and inexpensive healing tools available to anyone who wants his mind to spew some stress.
Relax and Enjoy
After divorce, it is not long before the negative feelings begin to take a toll on your mind and body. You owe it to yourself to take good care of your own person. You should eat a nutritious diet and occasionally pamper yourself by a sauna or gym session. Also, you should consciously try to relax and unwind by inviting friends over or gong out with them over the weekends.
About the Author
James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you would like more information on how to get a quickie Divorce see http://www.quickie-divorce.com
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October 26, 2008
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Sometimes after we beak up, when they don’t come back to us, we think what would happen if we tried to go after our ex? However, when we gather enough courage to do it, something stops us. We just can’t… Here are four reasons why we’re afraid of pursing our ex’s.
1) Afraid of Rejection
After you’ve broken up, you might still have some resentment, some pain, some anger, and some depression. If you go back and try to get back with your ex, they may not want to get back together again. Thus you’re basically asking yourself if all this “build up” and “plan of action” of getting back your ex is even worth the trouble of possibly causing more resentment, pain, anger and depression. I think not. Don’t lose hope just yet though…
2) Our Dignity is at Stake
A friend once told me that even when we break up, the one thing we still have left is our dignity. What you do with from here on out is completely up to you. She had a point. You could easily risk all your dignity by digging a deeper hole down the middle if you decide to go and try to pursue your ex back. How do you save face after something like that? Don’t lose hope just yet though…
3) Possibility of Distancing Yourself From Them Even More
Maybe your breakup was just a temporary one also know as “I think we should take a break.” During these few days or few weeks needed to give your ex some space, you might of not been able to handle it. You may go and think of ways to “work things out” with them, but doing so might worsen the chances of you guys ever getting back together, not to mention distancing themselves further than they already have. Don’t lose hope just yet though…
4) Don’t Know What Steps to Take
Finally, you simply just don’t know what to do. If you’ve ever been in this type of situation before, then this can pose a big problem. It would be pretty cool if you could just walk up to your ex and say, “Hey… let’s stop the acting, we both know that you like still like me, and I, well, still have some feelings for you, so let’s just cut the crap and get back together, okay?” The next thing you know your ex replies, “Sure why not babe I’m sorry…” If it were just this easy. Don’t lose hope just yet though!
Fear is most likely going to be there no matter how bad things are. But the one thing that will always be there is this. If you never try, you’ll never know. Even if you do try getting back your ex and things don’t work out, not only will you have overcome your biggest fears, but you’ll know the answer to pursuing or moving on. The worst thing that can happen is learning from your mistakes and now you can moving on with your life. So again, don’t let these four common fears stop you from doing anything you want to do, and who knows, the chances of getting back your ex are not as bad as you think they are!
About the Author
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All of life is a circle that feeds upon itself. The individual mentality of separateness is fed by the institution of religion, which relies on the concept of separateness to exist in its present form.
This system maintains that you are separate from God and dependant on your religion to show you how to interpret God’s commandments and act as an intermediary with God, on your behalf. This will allow you to score points in the game of life, in order to be a winner, and thereby increase your chances of gaining entry into heaven.
The individual mentality of separateness is fed by the institution of education, which relies on the concept of separateness to exist in its present form.
This system maintains it knows how to take an individuals thinking pattern and mold it so that it conforms to the dictates of what society demands. The institution is based on God’s commandments and therefore is designed to not only educate us, but to ensure consistency in the belief that we are doing God’s bidding. That is, to be a functional cog in the work place so you can obtain more material goods. This keeps the economy going and allows you to score points in the game of life so that you will be a winner, thereby increasing your chances to gain entrance into heaven.
The individual mentality of separateness is fed by the institution of government, which relies on the concept of separateness in order to exist in its present form.
This system maintains that you, as individuals, are separate from each other and need a system that can represent all of you as a whole. This system functions for the common good of all and acts as your representative reflecting your individual values to the rest of the world. In doing so, the government allows you to express your individual opinions, which are subject to majority rule. By allowing governments to act in this manner, with a foundation based upon God’s commandments, we, as individuals, have more opportunity to score points in the game of life and increase our chances of getting into heaven.
What we begin to see here is a pattern that says you are a separate entity and it is essential for you to maintain that concept. When you do so you live in fear of whether or not you will gain entry into heaven. As long as you live with that fear then we, as institutions, will be able to control you.
The fear that the outcome of our lives is in doubt is what feeds the concept of separateness. Fear that God may judge us unworthy by seeing how we lived up to his commandments, the results of which are either acceptance into heaven, or condemnation to hell.
The institutions we rely on to feed our separateness have seen this connection between God’s commandments and our fear of judgment of those commandments and have told us that they too are grounded in God’s commandments. Therefore if you don’t believe and trust in the institution, you are once again at risk as to how God will judge you. By believing and trusting in the institution you are, by fiat, believing and trusting in God and thereby increasing your chances that you will gain entrance into heaven.
What they didn’t tell you was that by believing and trusting in the institutions you had to give up your independent thinking and submit your unlimited freedom and potential to the control of the institution, which would then limit your freedom and not give you the opportunity to fulfill your potential. But it’s worth it, they tell you, because you have a better chance of getting into heaven if you join the rest of the sleepwalkers and do what’s right for yourself.
The base belief system you were born into told you to believe and trust in the institutions. Your mother and father told you to believe and trust in the institutions, and you haven’t remembered enough to know better, so you fall in line and believe and trust in the institutions. You are sleepwalking because you allowed the institutions to limit you and your freedom to choose.
How did they do this? By telling you that if you don’t follow their dictates you aren’t following God’s commandments. And if you don’t follow God’s commandments, then you will go to hell. You live in fear of going to hell and you therefore live in fear your whole earthly life.
It is time to rebel against these deeply entrenched institutions and take our freedom back. You can do this effortlessly by changing your paradigm of life from one of fear and separation to one of love, unity and oneness.
About the Author
Richard Blackstone is an award winning author and international speaker on Love, Oneness & Creation. Journey into discovery of Self by reading this FREE report; “The 3 Simple Immutable Laws of the Universe” at: http://www.NutsandBoltsSpirituality.com
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Once you start waking up to your true authentic self you begin to change the concepts that have held you in a bondage of fear. As you awaken to the light of true consciousness, the fears that have enslaved you in your past don’t look so fearsome in the light of awareness.
We see things for what they are and we observe whether they serve us or not, given our definition of who we are and who we determine ourselves to be. So when we take on the paradigm that we are one with God and start to challenge the institutions that have held us in fear for so long, we begin to examine the core concepts of all three major institutions and take a closer look at God’s commandments.
When we immerse ourselves in the concepts of unity and love we take on the knowledge that God is the source of all that is, and we are created in the image and likeness of God. So we are made of the same stuff as God and have the same talents and abilities. At the core of God is love, and at our core is love.
Our purpose, as spirit children, is to experience in the relative physical world all that God knows conceptually in the absolute world. Because God’s true essence is love, then the belief system that God goes by is a love-based belief system. This is what God is. In order to experience God’s belief system, we are allowed to know what God’s belief system is not. In fact we must know and experience what God’s belief system is not in order for us to know experientially exactly what it is.
God sent his belief system to us not only in the core being that we are, but also in a physical form so that man would have a tangible thing to know of that represents God’s value system.
We have come to describe this physical representation of these values as The Ten Commandments. We have based our core institutions of religion, education and government on them in order to control us under threat of condemnation to hell if we don’t follow them.
When we see how all these institutions have followed the values prescribed by these commandments we see the hypocrisy that we have allowed ourselves to live under because of our fears. We see how each of these institutions has lied, cheated and stolen under the sanctimonious guise of doing it for our benefit in order for us to get into heaven. The unholiest of unholies is how each of these institutions has lead us to kill our fellow human beings and say that it was justified in accordance with God’s laws and commandments.
The only God they could be talking about is the God of separation and fear, who holds himself out to be a monarch and who is separate from us and separate from the universe he created. Only the God of fear would be separate from the very commandments he sent to us and told us not to violate under threat of condemnation to hell.
The God of Love and unity has a value system that he instilled in us and that has been revealed to us in physical form. But this God would not command us to never violate these values because this God wants us to experience what we are not in order to know what we are. How could we possibly do that if, in so doing, we violate a commandment that she told us not to violate?
The God of Love would not do that. The God of Love would not command us to do anything because the whole premise of our being is to create the experiences on earth that we choose using our free will, without restrictions or limitations. The God of Love does not interfere (enter-fear) with our choices. We make the choices. To interfere with our choices would negate the whole premise of God’s purpose and violate the process of life.
So, yes, we are privy to God’s values, both within our very souls and also within the concept of The Ten Commandments. But instead of using these as God’s commandments, we should use them under the concept of God’s guidelines. For God, in the form of the soul, is here to guide us in this earthly journey but she is not here to command us to do one thing or another. We are at free choice to be and do one thing or another.
We are at free choice to call this value system commandments or guidelines. Man, not God, is the one who has told us for 2,000 years that these are commandments, through man’s written and spoken words. But what man says or writes doesn’t make it so. Remember, everything is temporal and temporary. Everything is a matter of perspective. The only constant in the universe is change.
About the Author
Richard Blackstone is an award winning author and international speaker on Love, Oneness & Creation. Journey into discovery of Self by reading this FREE report; “The 3 Simple Immutable Laws of the Universe” at: http://www.NutsandBoltsSpirituality.com
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October 23, 2008
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Coping with a break up can really be hard especially if with someone really special to you. I often hear other girls say that they can handle their boyfriends having sex with other women as long as they still stay together.
But often times they never stay. They leave you feeling more desperate, pathetic and putting all the blame to yourself. Asking yourself where you fell short and what you could have done to prevent the break up.
Whats done is done. But if you think that there is nothing left for you to do then you are wrong. Hundreds of couples around the world break up everyday and a good percentage of them end up getting back together.
What Can You Do Today To End Your Break Up?
Often times you feel hopeless so you react with intense emotions and try to pull all the stops just to win your ex back. I understand how you feel but you are just making it harder for yourself to resolve the problem.
So what you should do?
1. STOP calling him on the phone several times a day.2. STOP calling his family, friends and relatives.3. STOP sending him tons of text messages and emails.4. STOP begging and pleading for him or her to come back.5. Seriously, what you need is to STOP being there.
Remember, he broke up with you and you are just increasing the level of confusion he is going through by overwhelming him with your neediness. Right now, I can tell you upfront that he sees you as some kind of a burden.
He knows exactly where to find you. He knows exactly whats on your mind. If your ex does not know anything about whats going on with you then you have a better chance of solving the dilemma that your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is going through.
Additionally, this is a great way to help ease up the drama between you.
I know this may sound a bit counter intuitive but believe me these should be your first move. I didnt want to call it a tactic because I also want you to use this invisible mode as an opportunity for you to heal yourself.
If there is a third party, the more you should abide by this. Have a strong heart and mind. Believe that this in love state he is going through with the other lover will soon fade.
You need to have the confidence that it will. Be patient and their relationship will run its course.
Give yourself time and love. Take that trip that youve been putting off. Enjoy and start living your life. I know its not easy but you have to believe that its not that hard too.
Think of it as your opportunity to grow into another level. Once he realizes that you no longer need him, youre not pestering him and leaving a hundred comments on his facebook, he will think that you have moved on.
This is will stir uncomfortable feelings inside and even find you irresistible, this is the way human nature is wired.
Everything would take some guts and an iron will on your part. You have tried your own needy tactics and they didnt work. Give this method a shot. Gather your composure and reclaim your self-respect.
About the Author
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October 22, 2008
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You have may have just broken up with your ex and you are having trouble just getting through the day. You keep repeating in your head “How do I get my ex back?” You are wondering “Can you get an ex back?”
If you really want to get your ex to come back there are things you should and should not do. Soon after the break up women normally makes the following mistakes:
1. Yelling, screaming, and throwing a tantrum-This will not help in your effort to get ex back.
2. Crying and begging-Crying and begging hysterically will not get your ex man back, but it will make you seem pathetic and needy.
3. Texting-Texting frantically will not get your ex lover back and neither will calling him excessively every 20 minutes.
All of these things are common mistakes that many women make when dealing with a break up, especially when they want their ex back.
One thing you can do to get your ex back is to try and turn the break up around and make him feel as if he is the one being rejected. Nobody likes to feel rejected and this will drive him crazy.
In a positive manner, tell him you are glad he wants to break up as you were feeling the same way. Let him know that you are completely agreeable with the breakup and that you think it is a great idea that you were just trying to find the right time and place to let him know how you feel.
Tell him it is not him it’s you, everyone hates that line. Then go about your normal social activities and completely ignore him.
You can even start dating platonically as this will make him even crazier. Once he sees how happy you are he will once again want to be part of that and he will come back to you.
If you really want to get your ex to come back to you making him feel as if he is the rejected one and that your are wanted by other men is a sure way to get your ex to come running back to you and begging for your relationship to resume.
If you think you relationship with your ex is beyond repair then you need to consider the unconventional strategies in an excellent e-book by T. W. Jackson tilted “The Magic of Making Up”.
He has developed what he calls “The Love Recipe” based not on stale theories that are taught in college, but on real life experiences. He will guide you through the do’s and don’ts during you relationship break up and help you find the answer to your question “How do I get my ex back”.
The unconventional strategies will help you get ex back even if you think your situation is impossible. You know bad things have been said by both you and your ex, cheating may have occurred by one of you, but you relationship can be saved and you can get ex lover back.
If you still love your ex there are ways to get him back, you must decide if you want to put the effort and time into saving your relationship. You can find more information below about The Magic of Making Up. You now know where you can find the answer to your question “How Do I Get My Ex Back?”.
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Buddhist meditation requires a strong discipline, commitment, and a will to block out all the distractions of everyday life. When the person is totally and utterly at peace form their surroundings nirvana can be achieved. Buddhists have practiced meditation for centuries to reach a higher being and learn the true meaning of life by sacrificing from oneself from material objects. Buddhists believe desire causes pain and suffering, so no desire and the will not to pursue material goods, enlightenment can be achieved. With meditation, this can be used as a distraction from the material and to stay purified.There are two central kinds of Buddhist meditation which are Tranquility or Samantha meditation and Insight or Vispassana meditation.
Tranquility or Samantha meditation
The goal of tranquility or Samantha is to focus the mind and train it to concentrate. There are four stages to Samantha meditation which include detachment from the outside world, concentration, joy, and equanimity. Samantha can also be broken into forty different types of kammatthanas which a person should choose of his own inclination. Virtues like kindness, devices like light or colors, grotesque things like a dead body, and recollections like sayings of Buddha are just a few of the forty.
Insight or Vispassana meditation
Insight or Vispassana meditation goal is to focus on the Buddhists truths, to reflect inside. Unlike tranquility meditation which focuses on concentration, insight meditation focuses on mindfulness. Mindfulness is trying to understand the object and learn its meaning not just to focus on it. If one focuses on a pencil, focus on what the purpose and meaning is of the pencil, what is it made of, and why does it exist. There are also different stages of insight meditation which are walking and sitting meditation.
Walking meditation takes a very strong discipline to achieve. The practitioner must focus and relax in a quite place blocking out the surroundings and focusing on the movements of the walking. If one can achieve this and focus on nothing but the walking a blissfulness can occur.
Sitting meditation is more commonly practiced. Breathing is the central focus of the sitting meditation. Everything else should be out of ones mind and the focus is directly on the breathing, from in and out and again and again.
The goal here is to be applied to everyday life. Live in the moment and not think about the past or future when doing a specific task. When cooking focus on the cooking, when eating focus on the eating and enjoy the food, when sleeping focus on the sleeping and enjoy the sleep. Buddhist mediation is meant to enrich and enhance lives and to have a better understanding of the world we live in. Anyone can practice meditation, not just a Buddhist. Buddhist meditation is a form to find inner peace with oneself. While the average man may not find total nirvana and spiritual peace, meditation still provide a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction in every day life.
About the Author
Jane Michael is the head writer at the Center for Meditation. Meditation is her practice and her passion. Buddhist meditation is a great way to start your meditation practice.
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October 21, 2008
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We are all three-part beings made up of mind, body and spirit or soul. We all create our lives through the three step process of thought, word and deed.
There is a division of labor involved in the life process that goes something like this. The soul conceives, the mind creates, and the body experiences. Put another way, the soul has the thought, the mind speaks the word, and the body does the deed. Each part of the mind, body, spirit triad has a function in the thought, word, and deed triad. Isn’t this a cool collaboration?
What we call the soul, or spirit, is the big collector storage unit of all the feelings and experiences that you create. Think of it. Everything you have ever created makes up your soul. It makes sense because that was its purpose when it was created. To experience all that God knows conceptually. Are you beginning to see the beautiful symmetry here?
As you go through life, you become aware of some of these feelings and experiences by tapping into your memory. From this you can connect the dots and see which of these remembered feelings and experiences have served to define who you are and which have defined who you are not.
As you become more aware and conscious of what has served you, you begin to remember yourself. The voluntary amnesia that you agreed to when you entered the physical universe begins to wear off and you recall (call forth) who you really are as your memory comes more and more into focus.
You are then able to say that you have re-membered who you really are and you become a member once again of God. You remember that you are one with God. You are the same stuff as God. You are God, Goding.
That is the simple explanation.
Here is why it becomes complex:
It all begins as we enter the physical world and make our agreement with God to forget who we really are. It is at this point when we enter this world that we are at the mercy of our environment as to what beliefs we will be taught, and what base thoughts will be formed, which we will use as reference points in making choices throughout our lives.
Who we really are is a spirit child of God. We are one with God and in a beautiful collaboration with God. A beautiful communion with God, if you will. But in order for us to experience ourselves as one with God, we must also know and experience ourselves as separate from God.
By forgetting who we really are, upon entering this world, we are able to experience this separation. This separation from God could be experienced and nullified if the world we enter had a base belief system that says that we are in different bodies on this earth, but we are all one in spirit.Or this separation from God could be experienced and reinforced if the world we enter had a base belief system that says that we are in different bodies on this earth because we are separate from each other and separate from any source that put us here.
Most, but not all, of the humans that inhabit this planet today were born into the base belief system of separation and fear. It hasn’t always been this way. There was a time on this planet when most of the humans were born into the base belief system of unity and oneness. It was a time when the world was dominated by matriarchal societies. As with all things in the universe these are systems that are temporary and temporal. Everything is subject to change.
Society evolved through a change that allowed dominance to be patriarchal, and the base belief system evolved from unity and love to separation and fear. (I offer this information as an observation of history and not as a judgment).
If you are reading this material and were born into one of the industrialized nations of the world you were probably raised with the base belief of separation and fear. And because you have been constantly reinforced with the dictates and premises of this separation mentality for your whole life, you have been in denial of who you really are.
This combination of voluntarily forgetting who you really are, and being immersed in a belief system that reinforces the concept of being who you are not, has caused many of us to believe that we are separate. We are conditioned to be unconscious of the fact that we can choose something different.
So we sleepwalk (are unconscious) through life with base thoughts that tell us we are separate from each other and separate from our source. Instead of becoming aware that being separate is an experience of who we are not, in order to know who we are, we have bought into the idea that being separate is who we actually are.
The observation here is that we need to wake up and change our base thought. We need to change our base thought individually and then we can change it collectively. We need to change our base thought from one of separation from each other, and separation from our source, to a base thought of oneness with all and being one with our source.
This doesn’t mean that we are all going to be clones with no individual identity, far from it. It is going to mean true freedom to pursue our identity and magnify it without limit or conditions. Picture that in your mind.
What if you were able to pursue and be whoever you chose to be, and were allowed to be that without limits, conditions or man-made consequences? Would your life be any different than it is right now? You bet your bippy. Are there any dreams that you have given up on that might re-surface in your mind if you knew that you could pursue them without conditions put upon you?
The world, as we know it, would be entirely different if we changed our base thought from one that says we are a separate entity unto ourselves to one that says we are one with all.
About the Author
Richard Blackstone is an award winning author and international speaker on Love, Oneness & Creation. Journey into discovery of Self by reading this FREE report; “The 3 Simple Immutable Laws of the Universe” at: http://www.NutsandBoltsSpirituality.com
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